If you are dealing with broken heart issues, I can understand your pain because I have been there too. But I am not a soothsayer. This is tough talk. Yes, it is true that you can get back together with your ex, but you might find yourself returning to that place of misery and unhappiness that caused your break up in the first place.
You need real answers, not feel good advice that confirms your past mistakes. What I’ve done is put together an answer to one of the most common questions that comes up when people are dealing with broken heart issues.
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Why Does My Break Up Hurt So Bad?
I aim to tell you why your broken heart pain is killing you in a straight forward and honest manner from a Christian viewpoint. So, if you are not a Christian, I encourage you to read the question and answer anyway because it might help shed some light on reason for the terrible difficulty you are having dealing with broken heart pain.
One of the reasons dealing with broken heart pain is so difficult is that people commonly have sexual relations without the assistance of being married.
Sex has a twofold purpose. First, sexual intercourse is designed to result in pregnancy. Believe it or not, biology proves that children are the expected result of having sex. If you are not married, chances are you have no intention of having children and are using artificial means to prevent pregnancy.
Therefore, you are using your partner for pleasure; and conversely, your partner is using you for pleasure. Each of you became an object to the other. When you broke up, a subconscious (or conscious) realization set in that you were being used. And, it hurts, bad.
The other reason dealing with broken heart pain is so difficult points to the second purpose of sex. When a couple has intercourse, they establish an emotional and spiritual bond with one another. This bond is as addictive as the most powerful drug, if not more so.
When a break up happens, the bond to the partner remains. The symptoms of withdraw from someone you have been so intimately bonded to are sadness, anger, depression, and so on. It stands to reason that sacramental marriage serves as a safeguard to this intimate bond because of the promise that each person makes: “Until death do us part.”
Even though a significant number of marriages end in divorce, these bonds are even more firmly in place in the case of a divorce. This is why divorce is so much more intensely painful compared to couples who break up without being married. Break ups are yet even more painful if children are involved.
So, if you would like to avoid dealing with broken heart pain and heartache in the future, the best course of action is to avoid having sex altogether until you get married.
Similarly, if you decide to get back together with your ex, I suggest that you both agree to not have sex until you are married. If you are dating without a mind toward getting married, you are either too young to be married and should not be dating, let alone having sex; or you are simply fooling around, which serves no useful purpose. Now that’s tough talk.