After the intimacy you shared with her, you can’t possibly turn off your emotions. Or can you?
When an ex girlfriend wants to be friends, it is a sign that she does not want you out of her life completely, but she may need some time to figure out what she wants.
This is a great opportunity for you to work on getting her back, but you have to be smart.
Don’t Lose Your Cool
Getting angry is a natural response when your ex girlfriend wants to be friends. If you blow up in anger because you are insulted and hurt, you will lose your friendship with your ex girlfriend.
That is not what you want.
You need to remain friends with your ex because it is the opening you need to get your ex girlfriend back. If you make her feel terrible about the break up, she will not want to continue seeing you.
So, don’t push her away because you can’t deal with the fact that your ex wants to be friends for now.
What you need to do is be as pleasant and supportive as you can. Agree with the break up.
I know being friends with an ex is terribly difficult, but fake it as best you can if you have to.
Okay, so you are wondering, “How can I fake being nice to my ex when she hurt me so badly?”
Look, your ex girlfriend wants to be friends. If you are having a hard time accepting her decision, then you need to decide if you can live with losing her completely.
The reality is that if you refuse to be friends with an ex, you will have a very difficult time getting her back.
However, if you can deal with the fact that your ex girlfriend wants to be friends, then you will pleasantly surprised later on.
Strategy To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
Now, being friends with an ex will be very hard, especially if your ex girlfriend starts dating someone else or starts looking for other people to date.
This is the time for you to take a step back from seeing her so much. And, it is part of your overall plan to win her back.
Here is what you do and why:
1) Do not disappear from your ex girlfriend’s life. But, make yourself sorta scarce. In other words, stop hanging out with her at every opportunity.
Make her believe you are moving on with new interests, activities, and girls. Be sure you keep in contact with her, but don’t fall victim to being her back up plan or relationship psychologist.
Many guys who are friends with an ex get used by ex girlfriends as a sounding board for problems. Don’t do it.
2) Make your communications with your ex girlfriend short and mysterious. If your ex girlfriend wants to be friends, then that is what she will get.
No sharing personal thoughts and emotions as if you are still in a relationship. Simply make her think you are busy with social activities.
Remember, people want what they can’t have. You are becoming what she cannot have.
As your ex girlfriend moves through a series of bad dates and maybe a bad relationship, she will start to remember how nice you really were and start wondering…..”I wonder if I should get back together with him.”
But you need to act in a very precise way to make this happen. Your girlfriend will want to be friends forever if you cannot make her think she cannot have you.