Since you broke up with him, you have been looking high and low for ways to get him back, right? Trust me. I know how awful a break up can be. If I had a nickel for every break up I went through, I’d have $6.75.
All kidding aside though, it can be terrible wondering what he might be up to. The intense emptiness you feel as a result of your break up combined with the worry about what he might be doing to further hurt your feelings grinds your heart into little bits.
Now, if you are looking for ways to get him back, you need to start with a plan. Knowing that every break up is unique in terms of the details of what exactly took place over the course of a relationship, there are some elements that are common to solving every break up crisis. I’ve distilled some of the most common elements down into three strategies you can apply to your own break up crisis.
1. First, you need to decide if you really ought to get back together with him. Maybe your break up happened for the best? Be honest with yourself about whether or not your ex is really worth going through all the gut wrenching trouble of trying to figure out ways to get him back.
I find one of the most common reasons that couples break up is because one or both people are immature. In your case, perhaps your ex is really a boy running around in a man’s body. It’s really amazing how many adolescents are masquerading as adults. So, if your man is immature, he should really grow up quick. And, you should decide if it is worth it to continue to have to mother a child when there are other quality men available.
2. Next, one of the ways to get him back is to pull yourself together. I realize this break up has been hard on you. Yet, it is very important for you to recover in an emotional sense. Feeling sorry for yourself and moping about mourning the loss of your ex is not healthy and does nothing to help you get him back.
Instead, focus your energies on positive thoughts and actions. Avoid talking negatively. Clearing your mind through social activities, exercise, or meditation is essential for you to move beyond feeling awful on a regular basis.
3. Leave him alone for a while. The way to get him back is to make him think you have moved on with your life. It’s understandable that you miss him terribly, but you have to accept that he does not want to be with you right now. So, don’t text, call, email, and stalk as a desperate way to hang on to him.
Look, he will become more and more aggravated with you the more you try to get in touch with him. By staying away from him for a while, he will actually start to miss you and wonder how you are doing. Curiosity will get the better of him and he will want to actually get in touch with you.
When it comes to finding ways to get him back, this will be the first important milestone toward getting him to come back to you.